Asking for help doesn't make you weak...
Are you thinking about calling a therapist? What's stopping you?
Okay, you check your health insurance. Do you have a benefit for this? You probably do. But what if you prefer to pay out of pocket –- can you afford it? Or maybe you check your schedule –- how are you ever going to find the time to go to therapy?
You have your reasons why you postpone the call. You tell yourself you're still thinking about it. Okay, fair enough.
But here's a question: is there any chance pride is getting in the way?
Easy now, I'm not trying to offend. I'm just asking.
We live in a culture that values self-reliance. Americans are a can-do people. And that's a good thing, right?
Sure it is. Unless you're overwhelmed. Unless you're depressed out of your mind and you're struggling to function. Unless a relationship problem is preoccupying you to the point where it is difficult to focus on anything else. Unless you're being crippled by anxiety.
Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is know your limits. If you have a toothache, you go to a dentist. If you have a serious illness, you go to a physician. If you have an emotional concern, you go to a therapist.
Relying on experts, people who have more knowledge and experience than you do, just makes good sense. Don’t kid yourself into thinking you can do it all. No one can. From time-to-time, we all need the help of other people.
Here's one of the secrets of adulthood: human being were meant to help each other. Joining forces with other people almost always makes us stronger. It makes us better problem solvers, better creators, better builders, better people.
There is little doubt that self-reliance is a good thing. But even a good thing can be taken too far.
Seeking help does not make you weak. It makes you smart.