The Book List

Sometimes people ask me for recommendations about books they can read for specific problems. After writing down the same titles over and over again, it finally occurred to me that I should put a list on this website so I could direct people to it.

This is not a "best of" list. It is simply a list of books that I favor. From time-to-time, I add to it.


The Ten Best Ever Anxiety Management Techniques by Margaret Wehrenberg

Recent, up-to-date, practical.

My Age of Anxiety by Scott Stossel.

Part memoir, but with up-to-date information. This book should give hope to everyone who struggles anxiety.

Don’t Panic by Reid Wilson.

Everything you ever wanted to know about panic attacks in one book. I recommend this book often. If you have panic issues, you need to educate yourself about what panic isn't and isn't.


The Noonday Demon by Andrew Solomon.

Smartest guy in the room. Everything you want to know about depression.

Undoing Depression by Richard O'Conner.

Practical advice. One of those books that's good but often overlooked


Relationships, Marriage, Sex

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.

Based on the best research we have on marriage. Helpful tips. Surprising findings.

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

A book about sex. No pictures, just provocative thought.

Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch.

Deep thinking about how sex can help you deepen intimacy with your spouse or partner. It is not light reading, but it will invite you re-think what you think about sex.


Reinventing Your Life by Jeffery Young and Janet Klosko.

This book shows you how to break negative patterns that are based on deeply held, but dysfunctional beliefs. For example, the person who believes they are simply not "good enough."

Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Steven Hayes

Were I limited to only one book to help with anxiety, depression, and other types of emotional suffering, I'd probably pick this one. It's based on a new type of therapy, it's rooted in years of science, and it's very practical.


Passion and Reason by Richard and Bernice Lazarus.

Your emotions, explained well. Love this book so much I re-read it often.

Three from Postive Psychology: Flow, Happiness, Grit

Flow: the psychology of optimal experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

A terrific book about how to engage more deeply with life. I read this books years ago, and frankly it changed my life.

Flourish by Martin E. P. Seligman

About happiness, the research, the theory, the search for it.

Grit by Angela Duckworth.

Grit is passionate persistence. It good predictor of success, over and above talent. This book makes you think about your goals and dreams.


Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can's Stop Talking by Susan Cain

Think, the up-side of Introversion. A good read.

Time Management, Productivity, & Focus

Getting Things Done by David Allen.

As far as I'm concerned, this guy is a guru. Maximize your productivity, but keep your sanity. This a gem of a book.

Hyperfocus by Chris Bailey.

Your attention is just as valuable as your time, if not more so. This book helps you understand how your mind becomes distracted, and how to improve your focus. It is also has a fascinating section on mind wandering.

Work, Vocation, Personal Strengths

Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans

A book written by designers, based on a famous course at Stanford. Surprisingly helpful.

How to find Work You Love by Laurence Boldt.

Not to be confused with Boldt's longer book, Zen and the Art of Making a Living, which is also helpful though much longer. This books is nicely done

Now, Discover Your Strengths by Markus Buckingham and Donald Clifton.

The Gallop poll people have done research on strengths and this book provides a nifty summary of the patterns they identified.

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